>What is a SAHM?


SAHM is stay at home mother. And I am one of them. Well, most of you who are close to me already know that. SO, why am I posting this? Am I ranting? Nah. 
There’s this person who asked what I do. I told her I am a SAHM. She said life must be good (“sarap buhay” to be verbatim) for me. I told her, for SAHMs who have helpers to make life easier for them are the ones who are living a good life. But not me. I am a real deal SAHM. I do practically everything in the house plus tend to my little buckaroo. So, why not hire help, she asked. 
I nearly snapped at her but instead I told her. We are a single earning family and hiring a yaya is plain vanity. She still insisted that I live a pretty easy life. SIt around wholeday, glued to the computer or tv, lounge and read. This was my boiling point. 
How can it be all that when I have millions of obligations every single day? I turned and walked away instead.
So, I realized people do not understand what real deal SAHMs go through. Let me state A FEW:

1. The house will not clean itself. Nor will the baby do it for us.
2. Imagine cooking with a baby crying for attention. 
3. The laundry will pile up if left unkept for just a day. 
4. Of course, we do everything while the baby sleeps. What then if he/she refuses to sleep? WE can’t do anything. 
5. Sleeping early is not an option when it’s the only time we can actually breathe and do things for ourselves. 
6. A goodnight sleep is near impossible. We wake up on wee hours to feed the baby. 
7. We also have wifey duties. 
8. Do you realize now that we do not have day offs like regular working moms? We don’t have holiday vacation as well.
9. We work 24/7 unpaid.
10. Lastly, the baby does not clean herself, she doesn’t even feed herself yet, she doesn’t sterilize her bottles, doesn’t change her own diapers, doesn’t clean her mess and doesn’t fix what she destroyed. 

See, what we do? I hope people will learn to understand what it means to be a mother, a SAHM to be exact. We do have feelings too, we feel a bit incapacitated because we do not earn the way we used to and we absolutely do not need someone rubbing that for us. We feel tired and irritated, we are humans not robots. We need things too. At times, a good caring and loving makes us forget what we do. 
So, do not ever say that a SAHM lives an easy life. She might not be like me, she might smack you good in the face. 🙂 

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  1. kreations says:

    >I don't know if you have ever seen this joke, but it isn't much of a "Joke" more like a realistic description. One day a man comes home from work to find total mayhem at home. The kids were outside still in their pajamas playing in the mud and muck. There were empty food boxes and wrappers all around. As he proceeded into the house, he found an even bigger mess. Dishes on the counter, dog food spilled on the floor, a broken glass under the table, and a small pile of sand by the back door. The family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing, and a lamp had been knocked over. He headed up the stairs, stepping over toys, to look for his wife. He was becoming worried that she may be ill, or that something had happened to her. He found her in the bedroom, still in bed with her pajamas on, reading a book. She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went. He looked at her bewildered and asked, "what happened here today?" She again smiled and answered, "You know everyday when you come home from work and ask me what I did today?" "Yes, was his reply." She answered, "Well, today I didn't do it!"

  2. FickleMinded says:

    >I hate it when people thought being a SAHM is a walk in the park, they have no single idea how our days go by while those WAHM are working on their a/c office and have a cup of Starbucks for a coffe break!

  3. Renz says:

    >@WillaYeah, when we SAHMs sip leftover juices from our child's sippy cup! How glamorous! Hey don't get me wrong. I love what I do. I'm not complaining. Just that others do not get it at all.

  4. Kumanderbot says:

    >Let me guess either hindi pa siya nanay na tulad mo or well pampered mother siya (mother does have her own yaya so does her baby hehe.Ako nga pag may times na gumawa akong gawaing bahay iritang irita nako isama mo pa kaya yung baby na nagiiiyak with no one to help.Dumarami na insensitive na tao nowadays… yun tipong hindi mo na pwede kunin sa "Titig" ^__^

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